The One That Got Away


Lets face it or face fact, everybody has a type. It doesn't matter if you are a man or woman, there are certain things that each of us like, turns us off or on and certain things that we hate or like. This even applies when it comes to a relationship or marriage. Some women have been known to like or prefer only tall men, while other like short and then there are others who like men that are large. Then there are some women who prefer men that are powerful, wealthy, while others have been known to only to date men in uniform, bad boys, thugs or gangsters. I have found when it comes to figuring out what women really want, desire or need that its almost impossible to figure out. Women by nature are very different from men and as smart as some of us men claim to be, we will never know what a woman really wants or needs. We can only hope that when that special day comes around, that we will be able to keep her happy, please her, not say or do the wrong thing that may make her mad or scare her away.

Men are simple, we have certain types of women we desire or like also. But what makes us different from women ,is that most men have one requirement in common, when it comes to choosing a woman to give our hearts too. What is this requirement you may ask? A woman that will love us and have our backs in our time of need. From my experience and from my conversations with lot of men, there is nothing better than have a woman that will stick with their man through thick or thin. Nothing pleases a man more than knowing that his spouse or mate, believes in him, then has faith and there is nothing worse than having a woman that doesn't believe that her man can. Having a woman that is confident in her mans ability and believe in what he is doing actually scores major points when it comes to dating or marriage. Why? Because from what I have heard and from my own experience this actually makes a man want to act better, then give more from his heart.

Which brings me to this weekends topic, The One That Got Away. From my own experience I always think about the one who got away. I remember when I was younger I used to hear the term, love at first sight and I wonder to myself could this really be possible. One fact that I found to be true both men and women desire a good spouse or mate. We all want someone to love and many of us are hoping to find the one that was made especially for us. Love is something that money can't buy, but if we could most us would do it in a heartbeat. All of us men or women are attracted to different things and sometimes all it takes is a look or a smile to make us fall in love. Its funny or strange that sometimes we can just look at someone and say , Wow, he or she maybe the one and what's funny we say this statement about a complete stranger. Then we may say," What if I was with them, what would happen then or could he or she be my soul mate? Then there are some ruthless men or women that may say," That man or woman should be mine and I can treat them better then them".(smile) Or are you one of those people who have found the one, but scared to take advantage of the situation. All jokes aside, I would like my readers to write in or express themselves. I want to know have any of them or even if it happens to be you reading this, ever fell in love with a face, a figure, a style or a smile that made you wonder to yourself , if that was" The One That Got Away".
Have a great weekend,
Chuck

Comments

Anonymous said…
Wow Chuck,
I feel like you are talking about my life and I sometimes wonder about the man that I let get away. I met him one day at a mall and we started to date. It was love at first sight and when we were together it was like we were on fire. We couldn't keep our hands off each other and when we were together I felt complete. He was so passionate,so loving, we had so much in common and I felt like he was the one. But one day he got a job promotion and he had to move. Before he left he asked me did I love him and did I want to go with him. Like a fool I told him no, because I was scared! He is gone now and I am in a relationship that I am unhappy with. Don't get me wrong the man I am with happens to be a very good man, but I feel like something is missing. I really care for him because he is so good to me, but I don't really love him. You were right by saying that we women have a certain type and the man I let go fit me like a puzzle or like a glove. I am so sorry I let him go. I am hurt and sometimes I cry. Chuck, did I just let my soul mate go?
Lizzie
Charles Holmes said…
Wow Lizzie!

That's deep and I really don't have an answer. Maybe you did and only God knows the answer to that question. I know one thing to be true, most of us are scared of taking chances, because we fear being hurt and we are tired of people playing with our hearts. I have found now that I am older, I don't take the risks like I used to. Now I take my time to see what's on the inside before I admire the outside. Because as beautiful as a person maybe on the outside, its there insides that can either hurt you or love you the way you may need to be loved. Good luck to you Lizzie.

Chuck
Deedy said…
Chuck great response, and that is the best advice you could have given Lizzie. Sometimes we try to rationalized our hearts, our situation, because of fear. I guess like the old saying goes, if an opportunity comes knocking grasp that opportunity becasue you never know when it may come back again. I guess when it comes to love it's a different set of standards.
Deedy said…
Lizzie, if this is your soul-mate, then God will bring that person back. My advice to you is to pray about it, and let God handle it from there. You mentioned you was unhappy, why is that? Do you feel unhappy because you cannot see pass the passion you had with the one you let get away, or the physically, mentally, emotionally, or spirtually connect is not there with this other gentlemen? Do you sometimes feel, something just don't feel right, and it makes you think about the mistake you made, just ask youself, why do I feel this way?
Anonymous said…
Hello Deedy,
I just read your response, thank you. I have been so busy reading Chucks, blogs that I haven't had time to respond. That guy seems like he is a very interesting dude, if you know what I mean? You asked me why did I feel unhappy? Well my guy friend and I don't click . I guess I can share this with you since you are a woman. In bed he doesn't quite feel like the guy I love. Sometimes you could be loving someone just for the sake of just pleasing your man. But when I was with the man I let go he completed me. Girl this man made my toes curl, I drip every time I think of him and I still feel him even today inside of me. I dream of him at least once a month and one night I almost called my new friend his name.(That would have been so embarrassing. smile) The man I let go completed me in ever area and I didn't have any reason to complain. But was crazy girl and let my boo go. If there is a thing called second chances, I would do it over in a heart beat. Because just face it girl, good men don't grow on trees.
Lizzie
Deedy said…
Hello Lizzie,
Your not the only one that have been in such a predicament. In my case, this gentlemen was a very sweet and affeciated person. He did everything to make me happy, I never wanted for nothing. The only problem, I was not physically attracted to him, not that he was not a nice looking gentlemen he was, but some areas he felt short. I just felt it was unfair for us to continue our relationship, because I was not totally in love with him. It seems he was trying to buy my affection, I may be wrong but that is how I felt. We both went through similar situations in our previous marriage, but that was not enough for me. He deserved better, someone who would love him the way he loved them, but it just was not me. I prayed that he would find that someone to love him equally. Now, after saying all of that, you mentioned the one you let get away completed you. Lizzie as a women of God, the only man that can complete you is God Himself. The truth you and this guy spirit had a storng connection, and the way he treated you was the way you had been longing to be treated. One thing about true love Lizzie is never uncertain, it is always for sure. If you know within your heart that you really don't love this guy that you are seeing now, what benefit are you receiving. You will never completely have the affection for this guy because you are still in love with the one you let get away. What I also find in what you shared is that you are comparing the two, that is not good because the way you describe the one you let get away, this other guy does not meet the same standards. Let me ask you this question, if this guy was to come knock on your door today, and said that he still love you, and wanted to rekindle your relationship again would you do it? Just a ponder of thought, when you can answer this question, I have an inspirational answer I would like to share. Have a bless day!!
Vanessa said…
I have a question. If two people meet and they both feel like they both have found their soulmate and they date for a while but then go separate ways.......does it actually mean that's the one that got away or is it that God is working on the both of you? Soulmates often meet but its not God's timing. That's where the statement people often use say "if it returns to me then it was meant to be". My theory on that is it never left God was just molding him r her into the the person they need to be just for you. And at the same time God is installing all the necessary hardware needed for then to function in the way he designed for them to work for you. I never say anyone got away :-)
.... I just say God is not through with him yet.
Deedy said…
Hello Vanessa, to answer your question no it does not mean the one you had a casual relationship means that is your soulmate, or neither does it mean that person is the one that got away. One thing for sure if that person was your soulmate, you and that person would still be together. The one that got away does not mean someone you dumpped, or even broke off a relationship with. What it means you had an oppunity but never took the opportunity.

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