If you happen to be of age or old enough, I know that you have heard the term," Its Complicated". When it comes to friendships, families, relationships and marriage this term is used a lot when there happen to be big problems or a lot of issues that are hard to deal with in them. The question is why are most relationships complicated, have problems or a lot of issues in them? Answer, because many of them fail to follow the golden or written rules; What happens in our house remains or stays in our house and the oldest saying or written word known to man, Matthew 19:4-6 4 And He answered and said, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE,5 and said, ‘FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH’? 6 “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” As I think about these two old sayings, I can't help but think of the many ways a relationship or marriage can become complicated. Family members, friends , ex- lovers or ex- spouses are well known reasons why many people to this very day have serious issues or problems in their relationships or marriages. Many people today are unable or unwilling to let go of their ex-lovers or spouses and most of them still allow their family members or friends to have some type of involvement, say or opinion when it come to their personnel busniness, lives or matters. Which has caused many to break up, with their boy friends or girlfriends and divorce their husbands or wives. That's why when you hear or know of someone who says, Its Complicated, you know there is a very good reason for it.
Why are many people's lives these days Complicated"? Because most won't stay faithful, won't let go of their exes or past life and some still aren't mature enough to tell their family members or friends this very big word called NO! That's right as adults we should each know how to tell our friends, family members and sometimes our children NO! I always believed that every adult male or female should have a top 5 in other words, they each should list what or who is most important in their lives from top to bottom. An example of this list is putting God first, then yourself, children if you have them, a spouse if you have one, your home, family, friends and so on from there. What's in your top five should always remain a priority. If family or friends do anything to hurt or hinder this order then they should be placed further down this list, because the top three in any person's lives should always be a priority. If you happen to be reading this always take this in mind no one should put their home or finances in jeopardy in order to help someone else, even if they happen to be family members. Another thing that makes a person life very complicated when that person is in a relationship or marriage but still in love with someone else, while making love or having sex, having dreams, thoughts or involved emotionally with another person other than the person they have a commitment to. Simple solutions uncomplicated your life, then do whatever it takes to make your life less painful, stressful or complicated. I know there are some who may have a problem with this blog , my thoughts or opinions and may say it isn't as easy as you may think. All I can say is the main reason why I wrote this particular blog, is because just like life," Its Complicated". Write in then express your thoughts or opinions on the subject.