Finish What You Started
How have you been doing? I miss reading your blogs, but I understand after the death of your son that you would be reluctant to write again. But I am hoping my letter will inspire you to write , help those who need it(like myself) and help get me back on the road of dating. I lost my late husband of 22 years, but soon after that I started dating someone new. I know you would say that I should have given myself sometime before getting involved but I did it, now I am here, I know I that I am wrong to look for someone else while I am still involved but I am unhappy and I need your advice. I have a man that is cheating on me in right in my face.
Right this is the thing after loosing someone of 22 years through death. I will be honest it hard to feel loved again by someone else. People today is all about games and I hate a cheater. But when I leave the guy I am with, I began to feel lonely and lost. I know I don't need a man to live. I just cant cope without one. I never believed in dating, chasing and flirting at the same time. Just the things I go through with him I don't feel like it 100. Because he is hardly ever here always out with the boy's and he feel it alright or cool, to sleep by his baby mom's house when she want him to. I"m sorry I get emotional, because it hurts and don't mean to bare my problems on you. Just need someone to talk to, know what I mean? Please help Chuck, I have no where else to turn and your advice is always on point .
Sorry for the delay, I am sorry for the loss of your husband and I do understand loosing someone you love. When my son was murdered,I lost a very important part of me, so I really understand how it feels to loose someone close to you. Don't beat yourself up with your bad decisions, we all make them and its hard finding your footing again when a person you love suddenly leaves or dies. Yes you should wait until you have left your boyfriend and shouldn't really be looking, on the outside of your relationship until its finished, but I do understand why you are doing what you are doing. But if you don't get out of it first it will only lead you to more pain. As my mother would say, finish one thing before you start another or the job will never be complete. The same goes for a relationship, get out of it so that you could start something new, clean and without strings. Good luck to you Demetrus and always Finish What You Started.